Everybody Fights: So Why Not Get Better At It

Everybody Fights: So Why Not Get Better At It
By Kim and Penn Holderness

W. Publishing, an Imprint of Thomas Nelson, 2021. 230 pgs. Self-Help

Kim and Penn Holderness are best know for their viral internet video where they are dancing around in their Christmas jammies. There is a more serious side to the couple though. For the past several years they have been working hard on their relationship with their pastor and marriage coach, Dr. Christopher Edmonston. This book shares the things they learned during this time, but in a fun and lighthearted way. They share actual fights they have had and then analyze how they went wrong and what they can improve for next time. The book also includes scripts for how to start, continue, and wrap up hard conversations. The book is geared for couples, but the principles they teach can apply to any relationship. I highly recommend the audiobook on Libby. It is narrated by the authors and there are spontaneous songs and comments sprinkled throughout. 

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