by Hunter Clarke Fields
New Harbinger Publications, 2019. 169 pages. Nonfiction
As a parent, you strive to model kindness, compassion, and patience when interacting with your children. But no parent is perfect, and in difficult or stressful moments, you may react to your kids in ways that don't exactly fit your ideal model of parenting -- for example, yelling. You aren't alone. Parental reactions are often deeply ingrained, and you likely learned them from your parents. So how can you break this cycle and be the kind of parent you want to be? With this book, you’ll find powerful mindfulness skills for calming your own stress response when difficult emotions arise. You’ll also discover strategies for cultivating respectful communication, effective conflict resolution, and reflective listening.
Raising Good Humans differs from many parenting books by spending the first half focused on the parents’ relationship with themselves, rather than their interactions with their children. The author emphasizes that unless parents learn first to regulate their own nervous systems, in moments of stress they’ll find themselves going into fight, flight, or freeze during tough interactions with their kids and struggling to behave and communicate the way they intend. After offering strategies for parents to develop those skills, she then describes techniques for connecting with children and helping them learn to self-regulate in times of stress. While this book won’t teach every skill parents need for success, it’s a good reminder of the importance of mindfulness, meditation, and self-compassion for parents and kids alike.
by Daniel J Siegel
Delacorte Press, 2011. 176 pages. Nonfiction
In this pioneering, practical book, Daniel J. Siegel, neuropsychiatrist and author of the bestselling Mindsight, and parenting expert Tina Payne Bryson demystify the meltdowns and aggravation, explaining the new science of how a child’s brain is wired and how it matures. The “upstairs brain,” which makes decisions and balances emotions, is under construction until the mid-twenties. And especially in young children, the right brain and its emotions tend to rule over the logic of the left brain. No wonder kids can seem—and feel—so out of control. By applying these discoveries to everyday parenting, you can turn any outburst, argument, or fear into a chance to integrate your child’s brain and foster vital growth.
by Becky Kennedy
Harper Wave, 2022. 315 pages. Nonfiction
In Good Inside, Dr Becky shares her parenting philosophy, complete with actionable strategies, that will help parents move from uncertainty and self-blame to confidence and sturdy leadership. Offering perspective-shifting parenting principles and troubleshooting for specific scenarios―including sibling rivalry, separation anxiety, tantrums, and more―Good Inside is a comprehensive resource for a generation of parents looking for a new way to raise their kids while still setting them up for a lifetime of self-regulation, confidence, and resilience.
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